Table of Contents

The Jewel in the Crown 1

Introduction 3

Part 1 A LOVE Story

The 7 Myths About LOVE…Actually! 15

Myth 1 Love is Required 16

Myth 2 Love is Acquired 18

Myth 3 You Fall in Love 20

Myth 4 Love is Exclusive 25

Myth 5 Love is Attachment 28

Myth 6 Love Hurts 30

Myth 7 Love is Lost 32

So What on Earth is LOVE? 35

Part 2 A TRUE Story 43

The Ending of Pretending 48

The First Pretend: I am my body 48

The Second Pretend: I am a boy or a girl 51

The Third Pretend: I am what I look like 53

The Fourth Pretend: I am my nationality 55

The Fifth Pretend: I am my religion 57

The Sixth Pretend: I am what I do 60

The Seventh Pretend: I am my position 62

The EGO 65

The Seven Strategies of Detachment 92

The Emotional Rollercoaster 95

Emotional Confusion, Illusion and Delusion 111

The 7 Emotional Confusions 118

1 Pain is Confused with Pleasure 121

2 Stimulation is Confused with Relaxation 123

3 Revenge is Confused with Joy 125

4 Worry is Confused with Care 127

5 Anger is Confused with Assertion 129

6 Fear is Confused with Respect 131

7 Sadness is Confused with Love 133

How do You FEEL? 133

The Cycle of Emotion is the Cycle of Suffering 144

Making Love Real 148

Part 3 A HAPPY Story 162

The 13 Myths About Happiness 167

True Meaning of Happiness 176

Going to the Movies 183

The Dance of the 7 Veils 190

Appendix: Becoming Aware of the Presence of EGO 208

Thanks and Links 212

About the Author 213